We all have dreams for our lives, our families, our businesses or church ministries. For some, those dreams lie dormant and quiet, but they’re still there. For others, the challenge is deciding which dream to follow out of the many they have each week. For Christians, one question rises above all others on the topic: How do I know my dream is God’s dream for me? How do I discern between the dreams God places on my heart and those of my ego or my culture?
I was never expecting to write or speak about dreams. But over the years I’ve seen some dreams fulfilled, some left unfilled, and some needing relinquishment. Then I wrote Resurrection Year, a book about recovering from broken dreams. Instead of choosing the topic, the topic chose me! And the question of when a dream is mine and when it’s God’s has always intrigued me. We can be sure that God’s dream for our lives is better than our own (even if it proves more costly).
So, here are some ‘tests’ I’ve come up with to discern whether a dream is from God or me. Let me know if I’ve missed anything.
1. The Dream Passes the Test of Love
The dream is not about you, your significance, fame, or even your benefit alone. The dream is about God and the dream is about others. You’ll benefit from it alright, but it may also cost you significantly. God is love and his ultimate command is to love. Our dreams need to be sifted through love to ensure they’re not just the result of ego alone.
2. The Dream Passes the Test of Time
The dream lingers. It quietly pursues you. It isn’t one of many ideas, but the one idea that rises persistently above the many. Like me, you might enjoy dreaming up new ideas and ventures yet find many of those dreams evaporate over time. But if there is one dream that will not leave you, even for years, it may be God’s whisper to you.
3. The Dream Passes the Test of Peace
Yes, you may feel excited about the dream. Or overwhelmed. Even fearful. But when you pray about the dream the dominant sense you have is one of ‘weighty peace’. You feel passionate but not driven. The dream may be vitally important but it isn’t burdensome in your spirit. Weighty prayerful peacefulness.
4. The Dream Passes the Test of Faith
The dream is bigger than you, your abilities and resources. While it should be in line with your giftings and talents (please, no more singers who feel ‘called’ but can’t sing in tune), the dream takes you beyond your level of ability. You won’t be able to achieve it without God and others. You will feel vulnerable at times at the thought of it all falling in a heap. The dream will only be possible by faith.
5. The Dream is Confirmed by Others
Some won’t support the dream, and may even oppose it. But wise, godly, prayerful people support the dream. They confirm it’s God voice and not your ego that’s speaking. There is objective confirmation, not just subjective.
6. The Decision is Truly in God’s Hands
In his Spiritual Exercises St Ignatius talks about godly decision making by describingthree kinds of people. The first know they need to make a decision before God but never get around to doing it. The second bargain with God, ensuring they get at least a little of what they want while feeling they’ve ‘taken the matter’ to Him. The third group seek God’s will alone. Their first priority is not what is decided but who decides it. It’s a good image to keep in mind when pursuing our dreams.
By Sheridan Voysey | Author | Speaker | Broadcaster | Website
Sheridan Voysey is an Australian-born, Oxford-based writer, speaker and broadcaster on faith and spirituality. His latest book Resurrection Year: Turning Broken Dreams into New Beginnings tells the story of how he and his wife started again after a decade of infertility. Follow Sheridan on Facebook and Twitter, and subscribe to his email newsletter for free articles, podcasts and videos on life, faith and the pursuit of God-given dreams.
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